Awareness and Fall Prevention Tips for Seniors

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Winter is upon us and now is the perfect time to for caregivers of seniors, as well as friends and family, to become familiar with the risks of senior falling. Falling can have serious consequences for seniors so it’s vital to learn more about the risks and the potential impacts on their health.

Preventing Senior Falling

Did you know that the number one cause of injuries among seniors is falling? It accounts for more than 2 million visits to the emergency room each year! With a third of senior citizens falling annually, we need to educate ourselves about senior falling and how to prevent them. As we grow older, our bones become more brittle, leading to more serious injuries. These injuries can have a huge impact on quality of life.

Here are some stats from the Center for Disease Control:

  • Senior falling is the among the top causes for Traumatic Brain Injury. (TBI) This can lead to even more falls, often resulting in death.
  • Falls are the number one cause of broken bones in older Americans. Severe injuries such as breaking a hip, can lead to devastating consequences.
  • When a senior has suffered a bad fall, they often become fearful of falling again, which leads to decreased mobility. Lack of physical fitness only serves to increase the risk of falling.
  • More men than women die from senior falling each year.
  • Senior women suffer more bone fractures than men.
  • Tens of billions of dollars are spent each year on direct medical bills.

Although these facts seem dismal, there is no reason to think senior falling is just part of the aging process. There are simple things caregivers and families can do to prevent falls, and even the seniors themselves can help prevent falling by staying fit and improving balance.

Tips for Preventing Senior Falls

The most important thing in preventing falls is understanding the risks. Things like not being physically fit or active, chronic medical conditions, medication issues, and vision problems are just a few risk factors. Learning more about these risks will help greatly in preventing a fall in the first place.

Here are some helpful tips from the Council on Aging:

  1. Make sure your senior loved one has regular vision and hearing checkups
  2. Sign up for a balance class, or other exercise programs designed for seniors
  3. Talk about it! Encourage conversation with their doctor to help them understand the risks of falling and how to prevent them.
  4. Pay attention to the way they are walking or standing, especially if you notice them holding onto things as they move about.
  5. Discuss medication side effects with their doctor. Some medications can increase dizziness or drowsiness, which can be a big fall risk.
  6. Take up lose rugs around the house, as they can be a tripping hazard.

Senior falling can be prevented! By learning more about it and taking steps to prevent falls, you can greatly reduce the risk of a traumatic fall.

If you need help caring for a senior loved one, we can help. Call us or visit our Home Helpers website.

Home Helpers of San Mateo County is a locally-owned, trusted home health care agency and offers quality, compassionate senior in-home care services including home care assistance, personal care, companion care, respite care, Alzheimer’s & dementia care as well as homemaker services in Burlingame, San Mateo, Half Moon Bay, Daly City, San Carlos, Redwood City, Belmont, Foster City, Hillsborough, Pacifica, Millbrae, Montara, and San Bruno.

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Home Safety for Seniors – Proactive Tips to Keep Seniors Safe at Home

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A newborn’s homecoming is often preceded by a frenzy of childproofing. However, caregivers often do not see to seniorproofing the home until after a scare or injury occurs. Or they are not sure how to go about making the home a safe environment for aging loved ones, especially those who need care for disease or recuperative issues, or for decreased cognitive ability.

Below you will find some simple ways to make your home safer and more convenient for your aging loved ones.

Lighting
Light that is adequate for younger adults often is not adequate for older adults, many of whom have decreased vision due to aging or to health problems such as diabetes which affect the eyes. Be proactive about lighting and make sure that areas around entry doors, hallways, and stairways are well lit. Err on the bright side. Use higher wattage bulbs or add extra lights if needed. Touch lights are a great way to add light to an area not wired for regular lighting. Motion sensor lights let seniors move throughout the home without having to locate or reach for light switches. Glow-in-the-dark switch plates are another good alternative.

Use Hardware, Not Hard Wear
Seniors, particularly those with arthritis, who sometimes struggle to open doors or windows. If your current hardware is proving to be “hard wear” on your loved one, then a simple change might be needed. For instance, lever type door handles are easier to open than round handles which must be gripped more tightly in order to be turned. Crank style window openers can be impossible for some seniors to use.

Restricted Access
Seniors with a cognitive impairment or some form of Dementia must be protected from themselves. It is critical for caregivers to restrict access to dangerous areas without having to stand guard over these seniors 24/7. Childproofing tools such as special door locks or cabinet closures work well for this purpose. Any area containing dangerous items like cleaners, bleach, meds, chemicals, etc., should be secured from your loved one. Door alarms are available at little cost. When set, an alarm will sound if the door is opened.

Move It or Lose It
Seniors need to retain as much mobility as possible. In order to stay mobile indoors, they need to be able to move safely throughout the house. Get rid of tripping hazards like rugs and stair runners, rooms overly cluttered by furnishings, or items which constrict movement through the room. Place a trunk or basket in each shared space for quick storage of toys after play. Perhaps a toy-free zone can be enforced where your senior spends the most time. Alternatively, a senior-free zone can also be set so toys in the floor there are not a falling hazard.

Keep a bench or chair beside entry doors so your loved one can sit to don or remove boots or weather gear. Add a full-height barstool to the kitchen counter area to make it easier for a senior to prep and cook food. If your senior completes grooming in a bedroom, make sure there is a chair or sturdy stool to sit on while drying hair or putting on makeup, etc.

A chair in the bathroom enables a senior to sit to finish drying off without having to bend over and risk overbalancing. Walk-in tubs and showers are safer and easier to use for seniors. Add handrails in the shower, bath, and toilet areas. If you need a bath mat, then purchase one designed to grip the floor. It will present a lesser chance of causing your senior to trip and fall.

Can We Hear Them Now?
The unavoidable truth is that no matter how many safety precautions we take, unexpected accidents do happen. When they happen to our seniors, it’s critical that they be able to call for immediate help. A few minutes of delay can be fatal. You can try a personal emergency response system. Your senior would wear a device as a pendent or bracelet which can be pushed if they need help. A call-assist program is similarly helpful.

If there is no such program in your area, then have your senior keep a cell-phone with him or her at all times. As a last resort, make sure there is a phone in arm’s reach of where your senior spends the most time (recliner, bed, computer desk, etc.).

If your senior enjoys the outdoors, but doesn’t speak fluent cell phone or push-for-help, then purchase a coach’s whistle. Tell your senior to wear it when outdoors and, if help is needed, to blow it and keep blowing it until someone responds. The odds are that the whistle will be heard more easily than a cry for help.

Where to Begin
Seniors fall most often in the bathroom where most surfaces are hard and/or sharp-edged. So, begin in the bathroom. It’s an excellent start toward a home that is not only welcoming, but also safe for your loved one.

For more tips on caring for seniors, visit our senior home care blog.

Home Helpers of San Mateo County is a locally-owned, trusted home health care agency and offers quality, compassionate senior in-home care services including home care assistance, personal care, companion care, respite care, Alzheimer’s & dementia care as well as homemaker services in Burlingame, San Mateo, Half Moon Bay, Daly City, San Carlos, Redwood City, Belmont, Foster City, Hillsborough, Pacifica, Millbrae, Montara, and San Bruno.

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Visiting Elderly Parents – Checklist to Track Their Health and Well-Being

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Elementary, My Dear Watson
At some time, you will find yourself wanting to keep abreast of changes in your elderly parents’ health and well-being. This will require a bit of subtle sleuthing and a lot of observation on your part. You might feel a bit like Sneaky Pete, but it’s for your folks’ good. The good news is that you will be watching for changes in their cognitive skills, their health, and the point where they may start to need help.

Be Subtle
Keep your investigations subtle to avoid alarming or offending your parents. Observe their normal routine and keep lots of notes. Your goal is to document changes or problem tasks that may require extra help.

Documentation, Documentation, Documentation!
File your checklists and notes so that it’s easy for you to track down particular information. Some changes are subtle and may require observation over more than one visit to fully notice, and sometimes when a change begins is as important as that the change occurs. Of course, document what is still good and unchanged.

Visit checklist
Basically, watch for any sign of problems with vision, physical health/activity, and cognitive, or thinking, skills.

Physical and mental health
Watch for sudden or rapid weight loss. Do they appear more, or less frail? Can they hold their own during normal conversation? Do they exhibit any odd new behaviors — do they repeat themselves or get noticeably confused over simple things? Have they begun to squint or trip over things more often than usual?

Mobility
Look for any decline in your parents’ driving skills. When they drive, do you feel safe? Do you see any new or unexplained damage to their vehicle? Any evidence or mention of a traffic ticket?

Social skills
Sometimes seniors may withdraw from their normal social life either because they don’t feel as well as they used to, or because they are suffering some degree of lost vision or hearing and social settings exacerbate their discomfort. Or one parent may have suffered the loss of a spouse and they feel uncomfortable in social settings of mixed company.

Watch for a loss of interest in previously favored activities. Is it harder to persuade them to leave the house? Do they keep in touch with their usual friends? If they have been active in church, then are they still so?

Hearth and home
Keep an eye out for changes that may indicate changes in ability rather than a sudden, soul-freeing bohemian outlook on life. Is the house maintained at the usual level of cleanliness and organization? Is mail piled up unopened? Are any unpaid or late notices languishing in the piles?

Can you see any home maintenance issues being left unattended like ceiling level light bulbs left unchanged, drippy faucets, broken appliances still unrepaired or dead forever and still sucking up space?

The kitchen
Check the fridge. Is it clean and stocked with foods that they usually eat? Are out-of-date foods still in the fridge or pantry? Do you see signs of burned cookware, floors, or counters?

Meds
Check for any new prescriptions or supplements. Are meds organized? Does their system facilitate taking meds properly? Check to see if expired meds are found among current ones.

Print this list
Click this link for the checklist and save it to your computer and print it out and take it with you on your visits. Go through the list, check things off and make notes, then file it away for future reference.

For professional and compassionate assistance caring for your loved one, please call Home Helpers or visit our website today.

Home Helpers of San Mateo County is a locally-owned, trusted home health care agency and offers quality, compassionate senior in-home care services including home care assistance, personal care, companion care, respite care, Alzheimer’s & dementia care as well as homemaker services in Burlingame, San Mateo, Half Moon Bay, Daly City, San Carlos, Redwood City, Belmont, Foster City, Hillsborough, Pacifica, Millbrae, Montara, and San Bruno.

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Five Tips to Improve Seniors’ Quality of Life

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Life, as are many things, is often not always about quantity so much as it is about quality. Aging seniors often face losses in the quality of their lives well before they face the end of their days. It’s not enough just to see to their medical needs. We must also see to their mental and emotional needs in order to help them have a positive view of life.

In fact, a positive view of life can help alleviate some of the medical issues that seniors face such as cognitive decline and stress, lack of energy and appetite. Below are five tips you can use to help improve your aging senior’s quality of life.

1. Monitor and treat depression.
Millions of seniors age 65+ are affected by depression. The cause can be a single trigger like losing a spouse, being unable to stay in their own home any longer, or retirement. Medical triggers can come from disease or even medication.

Speak with your doctor and get familiar with the signs of depression. If you notice warning signs, seek medical treatment for your senior.

2. Remind seniors that they are useful and needed.
People of all ages want to feel needed. Being useful is a reinforcement that they are needed. Find ways to make your senior feel useful and needed. A great fear among the elderly is that of becoming a burden. Feeling like a contributing member of the household helps to alleviate that fear. Find ways to make them feel wanted.

Ask seniors for help with tasks appropriate for their abilities. Ask for help to fold laundry (If it’s all folded, sneak to the linen closet, unfold towels, etc., and toss them into a clothes basket). They can clip coupons and make grocery or shopping lists, or tell you the latest stories on the news. Ask for help to prep food for cooking. Ask for company while running errands.

3. Encourage physical activity.
Try to encourage some regular physical activity. Walking, physical therapy exercises, even clapping hands to music all stimulate blood flow, relieve stress and anxiety, and encourage heart health. Exercise also improves the quality of sleep, builds stamina, and can relieve depression.

4. Encourage mental activity.
Everyone needs mental stimulation. Seniors need this type of activity to retain or improve cognitive function and, also, to gain or maintain an overall sense of well-being.

Offer daily “brain games” such as sudoku, crossword puzzles, reading, writing, and storytelling. These are wonderful activities to keep the mind engaged and sharp.

5. Keep them connected.
Seniors can often become isolated and lonely, especially if they are unable to drive or have mobility issues. These seniors are at greater risk for dementia. They also have shorter life spans. Help your aging senior to stay connected to family, friends, and community.

Arrange family visits or outings for your aged adult, especially holidays or days of family celebration like weddings or birthdays. Line up transportation to get them to senior centers, church, or community functions. Encourage volunteerism. Suggest a new hobby (possibly one you can do together).

For more tips on caring for your senior loved ones, visit our blog page.

Home Helpers of San Mateo County is a locally-owned, trusted home health care agency and offers quality, compassionate senior in-home care services including home care assistance, personal care, companion care, respite care, Alzheimer’s & dementia care as well as homemaker services in Burlingame, San Mateo, Half Moon Bay, Daly City, San Carlos, Redwood City, Belmont, Foster City, Hillsborough, Pacifica, Millbrae, Montara, and San Bruno.

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What to Do When Adults with Dementia or Alzheimer’s Ask to Go Home

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Taking care of seniors with dementia or Alzheimer’s, though rewarding, can be very frustrating prospect. Seniors often repeat requests to go “home” even while still living in their own homes.

They can get frustrated and agitated when they feel no one is listening to their request or, even more frustrated that their request is heard but then blown off without resolution.

Caregivers can also get frustrated when asked over and over to take a dementia or Alzheimer’s patient home. They must find a way to respond calmly when addressing these requests. An agitated caregiver response is unlikely to calm an agitated senior with Alzheimer’s or dementia.

Since home is, for many of us, our safe place, seniors with various forms of dementia often ask to go there when what they are really trying to communicate is something else. So what are they really asking for and what can caregivers do when ask for it?

3 Tips on How to Respond
Try these methods of response to “I want to go home” when trying to respond in a soothing manner while avoiding further agitation or escalation into a big fight. Don’t get discouraged. Get creative. After all, caregivers often know their loved ones better than others who are not involved in the details of your day to day routine.

These methods may not work the first time, nor every time. You may have to try a few times until you get better at it. Don’t give up! This is hard but gets easier with practice.

Offer Comfort as Well as Reassurance
Use a relaxed and soothing approach. If your body language or tone of voice indicates that you are frustrated or angry, then you will only escalate your loved one’s frustration or fear. Likewise, if you remain calm, they will subconsciously mirror your mood and calm down.

Often your senior will ask to go home as a response to fear or anxiety. This indicates a need for extra comfort. Use your knowledge of your senior to offer something you know is familiar and comforting. Hugging, singing, offering a gentle touch on the arm or shoulder, or just sitting with them can bring about a calming of their fear or anxiety.

You may also offer a favorite blanket, or even a stuffed animal to cuddle.

Avoid Logic and Reasoning
Seniors with dementia or Alzheimer’s are at the mercy of their disease. They must live in the reality in their head and not the reality of the world around them. Trying to explain that they don’t need to go home because they are home will not work, especially if they are only asking to go home because they are afraid or anxious.

Logic and Reasoning will not work on a person with a brain disease since they cannot process the information you are giving them. Also, reasoning with them will often just agitate them further. They may sense that you are just trying to deny them something they see as a need.

Validation, Redirection and Distraction
These techniques are quite challenging. Don’t be hard on yourself if it takes several attempts to perfect them. These are skills that improve with practice.

  1. Validation. Validate your senior’s request by agreeing with them. You can say something along the lines of “Ok, we can go in a few minutes.” or “Sure, we can go as soon as I finish folding the laundry.”
  2. Redirection. After you agree with your senior, try to redirect their attention in a subtle manner. It’s ok if you feel sneaky. Just act casual. Remember, the goal is to redirect your senior’s attention away from going home and toward something pleasant.
  3. Distraction. For example, you could gently take them by the hand while saying, “Ok. Let’s just get your (sweater, shoes, handbag, etc.) and begin walking. Try walking past a window and stopping to point out something beautiful outside such as the birds or something blooming in the garden, or a child playing in a neighbor’s yard. You might then offer them a snack or treat they will like. Later on, you can redirect their attention back to something in their regular daily routine.

You could also try saying, “Ok, just let me get my (sweater, keys, handbag, etc.)” Then distract them with a cup of coffee or a cookie and glass of milk, or segue into a favorite activity.

Try asking them about their home, which will validate their feelings. It will also help them focus on positive memories and, thereby distract them from their desire to go home. Later, redirect their attention to something in their daily routine.

If All Else Fails
On occasion your senior will refuse to be distracted from the idea of going home. If this occurs, then try taking them on a short car ride. After a few times, you can gauge the distance and brevity required before you can return them to their present residence without protest. You can also try stopping for a coffee and pie, or any other distracting treat.

Sometimes it’s impossible to actually take them for an outing, or to get them into a car. Try going through the motions of getting ready. This validates their request and soothes their agitation. It also gives you more opportunities to redirect their attention elsewhere.

At the End of the Day…
When told, “I want to go home,” you must be willing to step into your loved one’s reality in order to respond to the emotion behind the question, and to calm your senior’s anxiety or fear. Until they are soothed, seniors will not give up on their goal of going home.

Call Home Helpers today, or visit our website, for assistance in caring for your loved one with Alzheimer’s or dementia. For more caregiving tips, visit our blog.

Home Helpers of San Mateo County is a locally-owned, trusted home health care agency and offers quality, compassionate senior in-home care services including home care assistance, personal care, companion care, respite care, Alzheimer’s & dementia care as well as homemaker services in Burlingame, San Mateo, Half Moon Bay, Daly City, San Carlos, Redwood City, Belmont, Foster City, Hillsborough, Pacifica, Millbrae, Montara, and San Bruno.

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The Caregiver’s Guide to Senior Care

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Senior care can be challenging: whether it’s a parent or a patient, the difficulties that arise can vary day to day, and it could get to the point that you are physically and emotionally drained. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are some suggestions on how you can make the situation less difficult for you and the elderly person you’re caring for.

Set Boundaries
It’s tempting to do everything when it comes to elderly care for parents and loved ones, but unless you set boundaries you’re going to suffer from physical, emotional and mental exhaustion. If you’re going to do whatever they ask all the time, you’re health will give way. As a caregiver you have to set boundaries on what your responsibilities are as well as those of the rest of the family. You must accept that you have needs that must be taken care of.

Be Flexible with Your Schedule
Having stated the above, you need to be flexible: you never know when one of your parents might suffer a stroke or the patient you’re caring for requires a medical emergency. In cases like these you have to set aside your boundaries and take appropriate action. Caregiving for the long term also means the elderly’s needs will change and you must be prepared to adopt.

How to Cope with Resistance – Causes
One of the hardest things you may face with in-home care is resistance from the senior. The first step towards helping someone who doesn’t want it is to understand the cause.

If your loved one requires care, it is most likely due to a disability resulting in mental loss, physical loss, etc. The resistance stems from the fact they fear giving up their privacy and independence. This could result in your loved one feeling angry or afraid, or they could feel guilty because they are becoming a “burden” to you and the rest of the family.

Another possible reason is a mental health condition, or perhaps they think that asking for help is an indication of weakness. Another possible reason is their concern over the cost.

The Right Approach
Home health aides can tell if a person is resistant to assistance, and if that is the case with your loved one, you have to take the proper approach to avoid worsening the situation.

Here are some guidelines:

  • Assess what type of help is required. Speak with family members and figure out the best form of assistance or service they require.
  • Talk with the person when they are relaxed as it will make things easier and allow for both to speak your minds. While you’re discussing the subject, ask about their personal preferences and if you can work out an arrangement.
  • Do not hesitate to ask for help. Even professional caregivers need assistance whether it’s caring for a family member or someone else. Do not hesitate to tell them you are tired and need help. Caring for the elderly is stressful and will take its toll if you keep it to yourself. Don’t let it reach the point you take your frustrations on the person you’re caring for.
  • While you’re the caregiver that doesn’t mean you have to do this alone. Other family members can pitch in while you’re talking a break or better yet, talk to them so you can come up with a solution where everyone helps. The point is even a caregiver needs help.

Be Knowledgeable
Know what condition is affecting the person you’re caring for can simplify your duties. Is it dementia? Did he/she suffer a stroke? Learn as much as you can about their medical condition –symptoms, treatment, causes, – and you will be better off for it. You’re not trying to replace their doctor, but knowing the facts is going to go far in terms of easing your daily routines. As any professional caregiver can tell you, the more informed you are the better you and your loved one will be.

Home health care has improved significantly the past few years, but in the end it’s the human touch that the elderly need. By being informed and patient, you can develop the right approach in caring for them without sacrificing your health or well-being.

Home Helpers of San Mateo County is a locally-owned, trusted home health care agency and offers quality, compassionate senior in-home care services including home care assistance, personal care, companion care, respite care, Alzheimer’s & dementia care as well as homemaker services in Burlingame, San Mateo, Half Moon Bay, Daly City, San Carlos, Redwood City, Belmont, Foster City, Hillsborough, Pacifica, Millbrae, Montara, and San Bruno.

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6 Dementia Communication Tips for Caregivers

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6 Dementia Communication Tips for Caregivers

Caring for someone who has dementia is hard for both the family and the caregivers, especially if the condition is similar to Alzheimer’s or other disorders that affect the brain and affects the individual’s cognitive functions and behavior. Since the condition can lead to mood swings or even personality changes, it can take its toll on you. Here are some ways to communicate with people who have this condition.

Set the Right Mood
Working on your communication skills is going to reduce the stress you deal with and enhance your relationship. Communication is also crucial when dealing with difficult behavior.

Start by setting the right mood as your body language and attitude conveys your emotions and thoughts. This means your body language and the manner which you speak must be respectful and pleasant. Displaying feelings of affection, physical touch and the tone of your voice goes far towards establishing rapport.

Eliminate Distractions
If you need to talk to them, do away with the distractions: turn off the TV, close the door, shut off the radio etc. Before you talk to them, be certain you have their attention. Address them by their name and state your name and your relation. Speak clearly and by using nonverbal cues, you can help them focus. If the person is sitting down for instance, maintain eye contact.

Speak Clearly
Speak clearly and state your message using simple sentences and words. Home health aides talk to in a reassuring voice, slowly and distinctly. Don’t raise your voice and speak in a lower tone, but not so much they won’t understand what you’re trying to say.

If your loved one doesn’t understand what you said, repeat your question or message using the same words. If they still can’t comprehend, wait for five minutes or so and repeat yourself but this time rephrase the message. During your conversations, use names of people and places rather than pronouns.

Ask questions they can easily answer and do so one at a time. Avoid asking open ended questions or those that have multiple choices. Questions like “Do you want to drink juice or milk?” are ideal. You can also provide visual cues; rather than just ask if he/she wants to wear a blue or green shirt, show the shirts.

Be Patient
Home care is all about selflessness and being patient especially if your loved one has a brain disorder similar to Alzheimer’s. You have to be patient while waiting for their response. Don’t just listen with your ears but your eyes and mind as well. It’s all right to suggest words if it seems like they’re trying to say something.

You should also check their body language and nonverbal clues because it might be their way of responding. Keep an eye on these and respond accordingly. While you’re at it, listen to the emotion and feelings being conveyed in their words.

How to Manage Daily Routines
Senior care will be easier if you break down the daily tasks so they’re easier to manage. You may encourage them to do what they can on their own and provide assistance when necessary. Rather than make them feel totally dependent on you –which could lead to resentment or a feeling of helplessness on their part – you will be there to remind them and help in matters they can’t do alone anymore. This doesn’t need to be complicated or always verbal: you can use your hand to show them where to put the plate, for example.

Handling Difficult Behavior
If your loved one gets upset or irritated, try to get their attention and redirect their focus. If you sense they’re getting agitated, change the topic and or move them to another part of the house. Or you could ask them to do something with you like taking a stroll. Before redirecting, let them know you know they’re upset. Say something like “I’m sorry you’re feeling angry/sad/upset. Why don’t we go eat/walk/talk about this or that?”

As an in-home care specialist, you must always speak to them in a reassuring voice and with affection. These people are often unsure, confused and even “remember” things they didn’t do or say or never happened. Don’t contradict them and just focus on expressing love and support.

Home Helpers of San Mateo County is a locally-owned, trusted home health care agency and offers quality, compassionate senior in-home care services including home care assistance, personal care, companion care, respite care, Alzheimer’s & dementia care as well as homemaker services in Burlingame, San Mateo, Half Moon Bay, Daly City, San Carlos, Redwood City, Belmont, Foster City, Hillsborough, Pacifica, Millbrae, Montara, and San Bruno.

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Recognizing Symptoms of Caregiver Burnout and Stress and How to Deal With

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Caregivers undergo a lot of stress: it is unpredictable, the workload can be immense and dealing with the individual, the family and your own personal needs can feel like the world is collapsing around you. Whether you’re a professional or just someone who needs to take care of a sick / elderly family member, it’s physically and emotionally draining.

Caregiving is usually long term, it’s even more stressful if the individual is suffering from a terminal illness or is a loved one. Without proper care and support, you are at risk of developing emotional and physical problems such as depression. Your priority may be to care for someone, but your ability to do this will be affected if you’re not well.

Symptoms of Caregiving Burnout and Stress
Being able to recognize the symptoms is the first step towards dealing with the problem.

Symptoms include:

  • Reduced time for leisure activities
  • Ignoring responsibilities
  • Eating more, smoking or drinking
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Health problems appearing
  • Feeling fatigued
  • Depressed
  • Irritated
  • Insomnia

These are the symptoms of home care burnout and as you soon as you recognize them, you need to take steps to deal with it.

Get Help
Caregiving is taxing enough as it is, and taking on additional responsibilities will take its toll on your body and mind. Don’t do more than you’re capable of, and make sure you have breaks. You should get help from the family to help you out even if you’re the one primarily tasked with caregiving. While you’re taking care of the person, there should be someone else doing the errands and helping you prepare meals.

Speak Out
Let family members know if you’re tired or not feeling well. As someone who has been trained for this you are in a position to inform the family of the situation, if you think there are ways to improve the arrangement and so on. You are not shirking away from your responsibility but looking for a way to improve the person’s condition.

Get Organized
One of the primary causes of stress is lack of organization, so set up a schedule and organize your tasks so you’ll know what to do. Note down your tasks, and don’t say no when someone offers help. It won’t just make your life easier, but people feel better when they’re helping someone they love.

Don’t be Afraid to Delegate
Even if you’re the expert in caregiving, there’s nothing wrong with delegating some duties. There’s no need to micromanage everything or insisting things can only be done your way. Caring for someone isn’t just your responsibility.

Take a Break
Caregiving takes up a lot of your time, but that doesn’t mean you cannot have fun and relax. Relaxing is the most effective way of dealing with stress, so you need to work out your schedule and allow yourself to relax. Whether it’s watching a movie, reading a book or just going out for a walk, don’t deny yourself these pleasures. If you’re stress free and enjoying yourself, it’s going to have a positive effect on your work and the people around you.

The point here is there’s a world of difference between being productive and busy. If you keep pushing yourself to the limit, you’ll get burned out and be more of a hindrance than help to the person you’re caring for. If you take breaks, you will be able to come back feeling refreshed.

You don’t need to set aside a lot of time for these, because even as little as 30 minutes a day when you can relax should be enough. You can read, watch TV, browse the web, play with the dogs, whatever you want. While you’re resting, someone else can pitch in.

Home health care can be easier if you don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Caring for someone is taxing, and there are days when you’re feeling like you’re overworked and other times when you like you’re not doing enough, but what’s important is you just do your best. The whole point is that in-home care specialists and aides need care as well. You have to learn how to manage your stress as it determines how well you’ll be able to perform your duties.

Home Helpers of San Mateo County is a locally-owned, trusted home health care agency and offers quality, compassionate senior in-home care services including home care assistance, personal care, companion care, respite care, Alzheimer’s & dementia care as well as homemaker services in Burlingame, San Mateo, Half Moon Bay, Daly City, San Carlos, Redwood City, Belmont, Foster City, Hillsborough, Pacifica, Millbrae, Montara, and San Bruno.

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Should YOU Be Your Parent’s Caregiver?

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Should YOU Be Your Parent’s Caregiver?

There’s certainly no easy answer to this question. Home care for the elderly comes with a lot of challenges and very few can handle the demanding job that caregivers do each and every day. So before you make a decision, you need to ask yourself the following questions:

1. Am I ready emotionally, physically, mentally and financially?

To prepare yourself for the role of a caregiver for your elderly loved one, you need to take several factors into consideration. In-home care could entail a lot of things depending on the needs of your aging parent. If they are still able to handle most of their day to day activities, then you may not need to devote all of your time to them. For example, if they only need help with buying the groceries, accompanying them on doctor appointments, or perhaps managing their medications, then you don’t have to give up your job to care for your parent.

However, in some cases, you may have to. For example, if your parent is bed-ridden or if they’re suffering from mental ailments like dementia or Alzheimer’s disease then that means you have to spend as much time with them as possible because they certainly won’t be able to do things on their own without supervision or assistance. This can take a toll on you physically, emotionally, mentally and financially. If you have young kids, you may need to make a lot of sacrifices to be able to care for both your children and your parent. If you have a job, you may have to give it up because you certainly can’t go to work while caring for your parent full time.

You’ll essentially be juggling different roles – as a mother/father, wife/husband, worker, and caregiver. You’ll need to adequately prepare yourself for the big changes in your life. So ask yourself – is this something you can really do, or would it be more practical to employ home health aides to take care of your aging parent when you’re not around?

2. Am I equipped to do this job?

A lot of people may think that caring for an elderly parent is not so hard. How difficult could it be, right? But unlike caring for babies and young kids, seniors will pose a different set of challenges. That is why professional caregivers undergo training and evaluations before they are allowed to work in this particular field. They are taught how to feed, bathe and dress seniors. They know how to encourage patients who feel depressed because of their condition. They make sure the patient is taking their medications on schedule and also monitor their condition. They can even prepare nutritious meals and report any possible problems the patient may have while in their care.

3. Will I still be able to set aside enough time for my own family and myself?

Being a parent’s caregiver can potentially strain relationships especially if the senior requires a lot of help. Your spouse may start complaining that you’re no longer around for them. Your kids may complain that you are missing school events and not helping with their homework. And most importantly, you may start neglecting yourself. You’ll become stressed, unhappy and eventually depression will set in. Don’t let this happen to you. If you think your aging loved one will require a lot of assistance, it may be more beneficial for you and your parent to hire a qualified caregiver to care for them instead.

In a Nutshell

Millions of adults deal with this question every day: should I be the sole caregiver of my mom/dad? Naturally, we want to take care of them just as they have taken care of us when we were young. No one wants to put their parents in a nursing home, and no parent wants to live in a nursing home either.

Many seniors want to age in a place where they can continue being self-sufficient, retain their dignity and enjoy their twilight years. But if their health declines, they’ll need elderly care.

If you are facing the critical decision of whether to provide care for your parent, you have to consider the demands of being a family caregiver. There’s no right or wrong answer really. If you believe you can provide senior care for your parent, then go for it. But if you have other responsibilities such as being a parent yourself or if you have to provide for your family financially, then it may be best to get a caregiver for your aging loved one. By choosing the right home health care provider, you are still doing your part in taking care of your aging parent.

Find out how Home Helpers of Sam Mateo caregivers can help provide the best possible quality of life at home for your loved one – contact us to schedule your free in-home consultation today.

Home Helpers of San Mateo County is a locally-owned, trusted home health care agency and offers quality, compassionate senior in-home care services including home care assistance, personal care, companion care, respite care, Alzheimer’s & dementia care as well as homemaker services in Burlingame, San Mateo, Half Moon Bay, Daly City, San Carlos, Redwood City, Belmont, Foster City, Hillsborough, Pacifica, Millbrae, Montara, and San Bruno.

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